Marcel Legros - Play the Game of Life

Welcome to the Third Edition of the “Meaning of Life” Carnival.

This is the third edition of this weekly carnival. We had quite a lot of submissions this week but I was exceptionally picky as well, so I narrowed it down to the best six out of all entries. Even if I get 500 entries in one week, I will only choose the best entries and never have more than 10 entries for any given carnival. This ensures the highest possible quality and relevance. The deadline for each edition is Saturday night and is published on Sunday. It’s a little late this week because I’m traveling and had to find a high-speed access point for my laptop to put this all together. Thanks for your patience.

Thank you to every author who submitted an entry whether it was accepted, or not. If you didn’t make it this week, try again next week! Please start a discussion by leaving a comment, and don’t forget to Stumble this post or submit it to Digg, so that your work will reach the largest possible audience. I appreciate all the great writing you’ve submitted - I really enjoy reading it.

Christmas is Near - Bring on the Cheer!

1. Steve Pavlina has been one of my favorite personal development writers for years and today I’m happy to include his article Career Transitions in my carnival roster. If you haven’t already found Steve’s site - Personal Development for Smart People, I highly recommend it. Good work Steve!
2. Albert Foong at Urban Monk submitted another phenomenal essay this week entitled, Psychology’s unique contribution to your Compassion and Self-Esteem. I really enjoy Albert’s writing style and depth and in a very short time we’ve developed a mutual friendship. I think we’ll be seeing a lot of good things from him in the future. What’s Christmas like “down under”, Albert?
3. Warren Wong submits, Conversation Skills / Tips: How To Have A Good Conversation. Hey, who doesn’t want to have a great conversation? Sometimes the simple things are left undone, and I’m glad guys like Warren are covering all the bases. Now, if I only had someone to talk to…
4. Tupelo Kenyon writes, Consciously Programming Your Subconscious Mind Before Sleep. I like the ideas behind the article and it’s well written. When I travel, I play audio books on my laptop at low volume while I sleep and set it on ‘repeat’. The next day, I listen to the same passages and whether it’s my imagination or not - they sink in a lot faster. This is a great way to learn new material. Tupelo has captured the negative side to this - don’t go to sleep with ugly content streaming into your brain. Garbage in - garbage out, folks!
5. Shaun Connell is also a repeater with the following essay titled, The Pursuit of Happiness. I agree with you Shaun - happiness is found in a lot of different ways, but without emotion and reason, it’s not going to stick. Well put, my friend.
6. Matthew Spears rounds out this week’s carnival with Interconnectedness of Being. This article is fantastic and captures the truth that every wisdom in life can be found within the boundaries of your own mind and body. I love your writing and respect your wisdom Matthew. Thanks for sharing again this week.

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Welcome to the second edition of the “Meaning of Life” Carnival.

I think we’ve all asked at one point, “Why am I here? What will become of me when I go? What am I meant to do now that I’m here? What’s the meaning of it all?” So we strive to find the answers. We hope that one day we’ll ‘get it right,’ but often we never do. Let’s all raise a glass to getting it right and praise all those who’ve gotten it wrong. We couldn’t have done it without you.

This is the second edition of a weekly carnival with even more great articles than last week. The deadline for each edition is Saturday night and is published on Sunday.

Thank you to every author who submitted an entry whether it was accepted, or not. If you didn’t make it this week, try again next week! Please start a discussion by leaving a comment, and don’t forget to Stumble this post or submit it to Digg, so that your work will reach the largest possible audience. Thanks for the great work, and we’ll see you all next week.

Good Reading to Warm the Winter Blues

1. Edith Yeung submitted, “What Would Make You Smile?” This article made me smile, Edith. Nice work.
2. Matthew Spears essay, “Emotions as Beauty Itself,” deals with a different way of looking at intense emotions, especially those related to past sexual abuse. Thanks for submitting this one Matthew. I wish you well in your healing process.
3. Warren Wong explores hidden reality in, “Why Your Thoughts Create Reality - Thought, Energy, and Matter.”
4. Tupelo Kenyon writes, “Integrity Through Self-Reliance.” This is a great article with a lot of insight.
5. Steve H Joseph submitted, “Learning to Ask Better Questions About Life.” Steve brings some personal insight into our ego-dominated pursuit of always having to be right. Here’s something I learned a long time ago Steve; please let me share it and add to your ideas - “You can be right, or you can be married.”
6. SJ Yee offers a moving video from a speech made by Jim Valvano back in 1993. The title of the post, “How to live each day and get from where you are to where you want to go,” is meandering, but the SJ Yee’s recap, and the video itself is very moving.
7. Patricia’s article, “How to Start Over: Rebuild or Just Remodel,” is my favorite this week. It’s well written, insightful, and emotional. Very gutsy article, Patricia!
8. Alex Blackwell posted, “The Most Dangerous Word.” I like this article a lot. I won’t ruin the suspense for you all, but I’ll give you a hint: the most dangerous word starts with a “T.”
9. Karen Lynch submits, “How Do You Do?” This essay is based on the idea of acting without action, a core principle in the Tao Te Ching. It’s funny that Karen submitted her article this week; I just finished reading the Tao Teh Ching this week. I read Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life,” based on the Tao Teh Ching, last week.

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Play the Game of Life is a blog about personal development, spirituality, and self-actualization. People go about living their lives in so many different ways but we’re all looking for the same things - happiness, peace of mind, and fulfillment. I think we’ve all asked at one point, “Why am I here? What will become of me when I go? What am I meant to do now that I’m here? What’s the meaning of it all?” So we strive to find the answers. We hope that one day we’ll ‘get it right,’ but often we never do.

Finding the answers isn’t so much where you look, but what questions you’re asking. The only way to figure out what the right questions are, is to admit you don’t know and ask people wiser than yourself. I certainly don’t have it figured out yet, but with the help of wise teachers that came before me and the wisdom of people around me, I might. I hope you find your answers too.

This is the first edition of a weekly carnival with contributions from any author who wishes to join in the conversation. The deadline for each edition will be Saturday night and published every Sunday.

I am indebted to each author who submitted an entry. If you didn’t make it this week, try again next week! There’s some really good material here and I really enjoyed reading them all. Please start a discussion by leaving a comment, and don’t forget to Stumble this post or submit it to Digg, so that your work will reach the largest possible audience. Thanks, and see you next week!

Albert Foong writes, “Love and Aloneness - Unravelling the Ego and Pride.” This is my favorite entry this week. He provides some invaluable thoughts the difference between being alone and being lonely. I really appreciate your work and hope you enter another article next week Albert!

Alex Blackwell entices us to ask, “What Would You Say Today?” His thoughts on relationships and human connection is very insightful. I love this article.

Alvaro Fernandez submits, “Enhance Happiness and Health by Cultivating Gratitude: Interview with Robert Emmons.” Can we enhance our happiness and health by cultivating gratitude? You bet we can! Thanks Alvaro, for sharing this with us.

Tejvan Pettinger gives us a few suggestions on how to get a fresh look at the direction of your life with, “Where is Your Life Heading?”

Jeremy Neal explains in, “You Are a History Maker”, that every one of us, in our own way, is making history every day of our lives.

Shaun Connell submitted a late entry early this morning but I wanted to include it this week because it was so direct and unapologetic. His entry, “Cold Reason” is exactly how I feel some days. Thanks for posting Shaun, even if it was a little late - I won’t hold it against you.

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If you’re new to blogging, you’re probably interested in learning how to attract more readers to your site. Many articles have been written by other bloggers but the most effective suggestion I can make is to submit your site to StumbleUpon. I ran across StumbleUpon last year, before I even started blogging.

The concept is unique, fun, and effective, both for the reader as it is for the blogger. Sign up for free at their site and install their toolbar on your browser. Choose the topics you’re interested in, and when you press the Stumble button in your toolbar, you’re taken to random site in your topics list. If you like the site, you press the ‘thumbs up’ button on the toolbar; if you don’t, you press the ‘thumbs down’ button. You can also submit other quality sites that haven’t been stumbled yet where they enter circulation for other Stumblers to discover. It works like a user voted playlist.

It’s difficult to find unique and interesting websites among the millions on the net, but StumbleUpon makes quick work of finding the best. I’ve bookmarked hundreds of fantastic sites I never would have found using a search engine. Oddly enough, I’d never thought to submit my own site to StumbleUpon.

My First StumbleUpon Experience

Last week, a submitted a post to Reddit. The results were decent - I got 95 hits in half an hour. I went out and came home and check my traffic a few hours later. Here’s what it looked like:

I received over 1000 hits in a few hours after a Reddit reader submitted my post to StumbleUpon. In the last few days, I’ve been receiving around 500-700 daily from other StumbleUpon submissions. Not bad, considering my blog is only a few months old and until now has only been receiving 30-50 hits each day! Not only was the traffic spike high in quantity, the quality was better too - the number of visitors returning to my blog since that day has increased over 1000%.

Topical news sites like Digg and Reddit are fine if you make the front page, but if you’re interested in increasing your online visibility with consistent daily returns, use StumbleUpon.

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There are thousands of self development, self-help, psychology, motivational, and spiritual titles on the market today. Only a few rare authors make it to the best-sellers list. Even fewer build a successful, highly trafficked website with a dedicated readership. I can think of only 5 living self-development superstars:

1. Tony Robbins
2. Brian Tracy
3. Wayne Dyer
4. Deepak Chopra
5. Eckhart Tolle

How many high quality, best-selling authors of popular fiction can you name? The list in that category is massive by comparison.

Tony Robbins is heavily criticized for misrepresenting the truth and for his aggressive sales techniques. He was busy marketing products for the perfect marriage while going through a divorce. Deepak Chopra has also been criticized for writing questionable science.

Most self-development authors never achieve the kind of success they write about. They’re trying to teach us methods for success while they’re clearly not very good at it themselves. Where are all the great wisdom teachers?

Living in a Positive Thinking Bubble

Harsh criticism isn’t well accepted with this group. Peers don’t criticize for fear of losing credibility in their field. When someone does speak up and trashes the book or article, the criticism is denounced as being negative. Self-development authors need to be held accountable for the quality of their work just like everyone else. If the quality of my writing isn’t up to par, I have no chance for success by ignoring criticism. If my writing doesn’t sell, am I ahead of my time or living in denial?

You Can’t Sell Your Way Out of a Paper Bag

The most successful people in any field know how to sell their ideas. You must appeal to the customer’s desire for a solution to a problem. A best-selling author isn’t necessarily the best-writing author. You might be an excellent writer, but to reach your audience you must be able to sell your ideas. Take a sales course. Learn to appeal to your audience’s desire for answers and then deliver it to them in an approachable way.

The Field Is Crowded With Snake Oil Salesmen

Authors often sell their opinions as facts. Opinions are fallible; facts can be measured, proven, or demonstrated. How many times have you read titles like “43 Power Laws,” “7 Steps to Incredible Riches,” or “30 Secrets of Successful People?” Get rich quick schemes have damaged the whole genre. Anyone can make up a system of laws and principles for success but do they work? Where’s the proof? If those opinions and advice were factual, why is the author mired in obscurity and living in his parents’ basement?

People Want Progress, Not Perfection

Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, and Mother Theresa all had their bad days. Someone burned their toast or stepped on their foot and they might have reacted with anger. Spiritual teachers and motivational coaches don’t like to talk about this, but every human being has negative thoughts and feelings. To deny one half of our nature is to deny reality. I believe in self-improvement but no one is perfect. People give up on a unrealistic systems that work only half of the time.

Measure Your Own Success Before Teaching It To Others:

* Do you have healthy relationships with your friends, family, and co-workers?
* Are you earning enough to support your needs? Are your finances in order?
* Do you receive positive results from the efforts of work and service? Are your customers happy?
* Are you physically healthy and free from life-draining addictions or habits?
* Are you happy and fulfilled?
* Are you living the life you dream about or only wishing for it to happen?
* Do you have goals and the plans to achieve them? Do you have faith that these goals and plans will succeed?
* Do you sincerely care for the welfare of all living things? Do your actions reflect your beliefs?

I’m writing this because people urgently want answers to their problems. We need real life skills, authentic wisdom, and inspired teachers who lead by example. Are you selling a hard-to-follow set of opinions or is it simple and accessible? People know the truth when they hear it. The truth sells, because it’s simple and it works.

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Two men are standing by the shore of a lake.

‘I’ll bet I can swim across this lake to to other side,” the first man says to the other.

“No you can’t! I’ll take you up on that bet,” the second man replied.The first man strips off his clothes, jumps in the lake and begins swimming. After about 20 minutes, he’s nearly to the other side. He gets about 10 feet from the beach, then turns around and swims back.

The first man is amazed and yells across the lake, “What the hell are you doing? You were almost there!”

“I got too tired, so I’m coming back!”

Of course, this joke is ridiculous. Who would give up 10 feet short of their goal when quitting required 10 times the effort? The answer: almost everyone.

Consider the law student who studies for years and pays thousands of dollars to a university, only to give up and fail her bar exam. Consider the blogger who writes faithfully for months, only to quit because there are only 10 visitors coming to his site every day. How about the employee who passes up an expensive training course that would prepare him for a real career once it’s completed. Maybe you think it’s too difficult to save $200 a month to invest in assets that will pay for all your living expenses when you retire.

What Do People Mean By “Don’t Work Hard, Work Smart?”

Pushing hard until you reach your goal is always tough, but the quitting is even tougher. It takes desire, focus, faith, imagination, and effort to be successful. Mediocrity only requires effort, so many people think it’s the easier path. There’s nothing wrong with being average, as long as you’re happy paying your dues with 10 times the effort. Do you want to work hard for low pay all your life? That’s the cost of taking the ‘easier’ path. Working “smart” doesn’t mean it’s effortless - it means you use your mind to achieve greater rewards and better results. Pretty simple, huh?

Great ideas, great riches, and great people are created with focus, desire, faith, and imagination. Nurture these qualities and don’t give up when you’re 10 feet from your goal - it’s a long swim back.

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